Who is to blame for the problems in your life? While it may seem inside of our minds that someone else is to blame for our misfortunes or heartaches, playing the blame game truly doesn’t work. It may feel like maybe your poor self-esteem or poor self-image have come from living with abusive parents, family or even an abusive partner. This is a perfectly rational thought, right?
Think about this deeply for a moment. Is blaming others working for you in your life right now? Does it help you to fix the pain of your poor self-esteem or negative thoughts? Truly, your outside world is a reflection of the world inside of you. If you allow others to be responsible for your negative thoughts or painful feelings, you are giving them your power. You essentially are squashing your own personal power and growth, and ultimately keeping yourself completely stuck in negative feelings or thought patterns.
I’m not saying that you weren’t possibly mistreated. And your feelings of being mistreated are very valid and they are your feelings to have. But understand that in this world, the only person you can control is yourself. In order to make a lasting change in your life, you need to change you. Changing the people you surround yourself with in your life, changing your thoughts, changing your actions and most importantly, changing your reactions to people or situations puts the power back in your hands. Forgive those who’ve maybe wronged you and deciding to truly love yourself is the only way to get unstuck from that pain.
Remember that forgiveness is not for the person who’s hurt you at all. Forgiveness is for you! It’s about letting go, and releasing those terrible feelings, thereby freeing you fully and completely. Once you do this, you will no longer be stuck sitting in that pain, and feeling the need to blame others for it. Take responsibility for your life and choose to live in this moment happily and free from the past. This is the way to take back your personal power and truly heal your life.
If this is an area you struggle in, reach out to me and I can help you do this. Decide today that your worth it!
Nicole Lawler will show you different healing modalities for your mind, body, & spirit. At the end of the day, it’s all about loving and healing YOU!